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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.,, LMFT, specializing in the narcissistic personality, She offers in-depth information about the origins and psychodynamics of the narcissistic personality and strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally abused by narcissistic personalities through her global podcasts (The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast) her books:: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narci ...
 
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Quoting psychoanalyst Alice Miller about the dilemma of the child of a narcissistic mother: "The art of not experiencing feelings - A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her and supports her. If tha person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother's love of her substitute…
 
Growing up in a highly pathological family you experienced a deep shaming of the self since you were a very small child. You remember the feeling, so intolerable that came over you when your narcissistic mother stared you down, pinched your tiny arm, screamed in her high pitched nasty voice that you were "worthless, despicable, a mistake of nature.…
 
Individuals who are married to high level narcissists are enduring dreadful stress that is affecting their psychological and physical immune systems. Our immune systems are designed to keep us health and strong on every level. Married to a high level narcissist you are in a constant state of duress, the fight or flight zone, the sympathetic nervous…
 
Intuition is an instantaneous knowing of the truth. It is faster than rational thought. You cannot study or analyze the truth that comes forth from intuition. Growing up in a narcissistic family and learning how to be yourself. Marrying and partnering with a high level narcissist is demanding and stressful. There is a time when you intuitively know…
 
High level narcissists commit cruel deeds of deceit and exploitation throughout their self absorbed, venal, conniving, exploitive lives. Filled with an extreme sense of entitlement they believe that they are better, smarter, more talented, clever, creative than anyone else. High level narcissists are condemned to a fate of never knowing the truth, …
 
You can't fall asleep at night; you are anxious, your mind is racing. You listen to your thoughts and wonder when you will get respite. Morning comes and you face exhaustion as if you had been up through the night. Exhaustion has a pain of its own, a feelings of weakness that can seem unending. Finally you face the day and wonder if your strength a…
 
The high level narcissist is a restless individual who must continuously keep his ego fully inflated. He believes he is superior to others and highly entitled. He seeks grandiose goals of power and monetary gain. Those who marry high level narcissists are unaware of their cunning and secrecy. This irresistible personality appears to be warm, genuin…
 
For years and even decades you have been under the control of the high level narcissistic spouse. How to disengage from the high level narcissistic spouse after separating from them: Activating your creativity: writing, painting, drawing, sketching, gardening, cooking, photography, sewing. Deepening your intuition - deep insights that come through …
 
There are exasperating choices some women have to make. Stay married to a spouse who is psychologically fused with his narcissistic mother or make the decision to sever the marriage because you can no longer tolerate the severe narcissistic abuse projected on to you. This woman is not going to change. She is the vaunted matriarch of the family. She…
 
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "Spiritual waters are without boundaries. The spiritual connection is personal, constant and present. There ar no horizons here, only the deepest blue..." "A person who possesses the spiritual quality of transparency is always the same despite the people and circumstance he en…
 
High level narcissists create and revise their biographies out of whole cloth . The high level conjures up stories about himself and his origins. They paint an illuminated heroic picture of their beginnings including their ancestors. According to their stories the come through biological lines of extraordinary individual: great thinkers, scientists…
 
You were chosen by the high level narcissist because you fit his/her specifications as the perfect partner. You are bright, socially savvy, quite attractive, magnetic, empathic. You shimmer inside and out. You make people feel comfortable; they trust you. The early years were inspired by a kind of beautiful scent, a magic elixir. You found the high…
 
Human greed has been with us for tens of thousands of years. Greed is one of the great sins - the relentless pursuit of money, properties, luxurious possessions and the dark manipulations that are part of this game of pursuing more. Greedy high level narcissists are highly manipulative. With their obsessive need for more they plot and plan how they…
 
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "A...high level...narcissist doesn't waste time on those who cannot perform for him/her. By seduction or guile he draws to himself those who will feed his constant need for power and admiration...The narcissistic personality values himself alone." ""The high level is finished …
 
Spouses and partners of high level narcissists are constantly under extreme stress. As a result of many years or even decades of marriage to one of these demanding, demeaning, manipulative individuals, they suffer from a variety of symptoms. Many complain of different kinds of chronic fatigue and exhaustion. When you are married to or partnered wit…
 
You have been a primary resource of ego supply to the high level narcissist: adulation, praise, loyalty, creative collaboration. Beneath the extreme confidence, self entitlement and charm, the high level narcissist is an individual who is constantly in need of keeping his ego fully inflated. High level narcissists create a golden circle of follower…
 
In a culture rife with hyper-narcissism, the high level narcissist stands out as an individual who gets away with multiple forms of narcissistic abuse visited by spouses, ex-spouses, children, business associate. The false selves of the narcissist are gifted at presenting themselves in the most irresistible way. They are charming, charismatic, tune…
 
Growing up as the child of a narcissistic parent is one of the most difficult and complex life histories a child can experience. The psychopathology of the narcissist is deep and daunting. As a baby and young child you were subjected to the full force of the narcissistic personality. Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist…
 
If you were traumatized as a child, growing up in a narcissistic family, you were often in a state of distress, hypervigilance, chronic anxiety. Your sympathetic nervous system, the fight or flight mode was over-worked. You could not let down and become relaxed. Growing up you were constantly on edge. You were raised by narcissists who could not be…
 
Today we are surrounded by narcissistic personalities, some of them high level: those individuals who are financially and socially successful. Many are exceedingly charming and easily psychologically magnetize people to them. Their identities are defined by their obsession with climbing to the top professionally, monetarily and socially. Nothing el…
 
You made a secret deal with yourself. If you keep giving the high level narcissist a pass on his/her lying by omission and commission he will stay with you---you will not be abandoned! It is very difficult reveal to ourselves that we have been so desperate to have gone against our own well being. The fear of abandonment is overwhelming for many ind…
 
You watch them make their entrances at prestigious private events---their overall "look" is impeccable. There are no flaws anywhere that you would discover even with an illumination device. You ask yourself: "How could anyone be that perfect?" Attention to detail is over the top. Like a perfect film set there is nothing out of place ever. Everythin…
 
Many of them go unnoticed at social events, appearing to be self effacing with a low grade ego. Meet the covert narcissist---that individual who is a narcissistic personality without the elaborate persona. They fool a lot of people with their practiced pseudo empathy and fake humility. Covert narcissists are highly competitive, manipulative, intens…
 
Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist lives in a world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth...the narcissist believes that everything flows from him. High level narcissists who have achieved greatly through their…
 
As much as you have studied, analyzed and experienced the high level narcissist, the unbounded heights of their grand delusions of self are astounding. Watching them perform is both riveting and appalling. The high level narcissist builds his/her delusions over time, starting with the earliest years, particularly if he is the golden child. If you a…
 
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