N4L 145: "The Collapse of Parenting" by Dr. Leonard Sax

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SUMMARY

Dr. Leonard Sax, a premier child psychologist, peels back the veneer of successful families in his latest bestseller The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups. Originally intending to contrast American parents with those outside the U.S., Sax explains how and why bonds across generations have been broken. Today, American parents are confused about their role, resulting in status insecurity.

Having traveled and lectured frequently throughout Germany, Scotland, German-speaking Switzerland, and New Zealand, Dr. Sax extols the virtues of these foreign countries where the culture still supports strong families and parent-child bonds. American kids used to spend their weekends hanging out with grownups, being mentored, and learning values and skills. Now, they are now much less creative than they were 20 years ago and far more likely to be diagnosed with mental illness such as ADHD, anxiety, and depression.

Dr. Sax sends a clarion call to parents to renew their relationship with their children by asserting themselves as authority figures. He gives us a vision for how to better prepare our children to thrive. Parenting, after all, is for teaching children what matters not only now but in the future.

PARENTING IDEAS FOR BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES

  • Having family dinners together
  • Limiting social media and access to devices, especially in the car and in the bedroom
  • Spending time together
  • Helping kids connect with more adults
  • Controlling the number of extracurricular activities
  • Vacationing as a family without friends
  • Teaching humility by showing interest in other people
  • Assigning chores to children
  • Installing parental monitoring apps
  • Talking and listening
  • Prioritizing character over grades

QUOTES FROM SAX

  • “The job of the parent is to teach self-control. To explain what is and is not acceptable. To establish boundaries and enforce consequences.”
  • “Kids need to value their parents’ opinion as their first scale of value, at least throughout childhood and adolescence.”
  • “There is one inescapable truth: you must teach by example…To become a better parent, you must become a better person.”

BUY The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups

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Send your parenting questions directly to Dr. Sax on his website.

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