STOP HOPING! Why You'll Never Be Able To Create Emotional Intimacy With A Narcissistic Hijackal

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By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD and Rhoberta Shaler. Discovered by Player FM and our community — copyright is owned by the publisher, not Player FM, and audio is streamed directly from their servers. Hit the Subscribe button to track updates in Player FM, or paste the feed URL into other podcast apps.

You long to be known, seen, heard, acknowledged, approved of and accepted. Those are the very things that a person with narcissistic or anti-social tendencies will not give you. That's how they manipulate you.

You want those things and they pretend, suggest, or promise them. You know now that you're not going to receive them.


I hate to have to be so strong, but it's essential: STOP HOPING!

That person who manipulated and love-bombed you into falling in love with them is a mirage, a charade, a facade, a chameleon. That person is made-up and put on. That's not the real person.


If you keep hoping that that mythical first-date person is real, you'll keep thinking that if only you could find the right formula while making yourself into a pretzel--that person would return. You know that you only see that person now when the Hijackal is really afraid of losing you, or really wanting something you don't want to give them, right?


Sad, but true!


That's why today's episode is SO IMPORTANT! Good people hold out hope that difficult, toxic people will change. It seldom happens....and, I mean REALLY SELDOM! They will make some surface changes for awhile, but their basic nature most often wins out and they go back to their damaging ways.


Yep! That's the bottom line: stop hoping, OK?


Big hugs!

Rhoberta


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why Hijackals cannot be emotionally intimate
  • The difference between being proximate and being intimate
  • Why you're desire for intimacy is their opportunity to weaponize your vulnerabilites
  • Don't mistake the desire for control with the desire to know you better
  • Important understanding of the psychological definitions of intimacy
  • Why emotional intimacy requires the emotional safety you'll never have around a #narcissist, a @Hijackal

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