Why Marriage? Why Kids?


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Preaching NotesReview of Be Bacon… slides, scripture, podcastStep One Be The Bacon: Die to Selfishness. Deut. 6:4-5Love the lord your God with all your heart soul mind and strength. You are a part of the kingdom of God. And you are now sharing in the inheritance of God. You have a new LEGACY!Why did God create families? Husband & Wife, Sons & Daughters. ****REGRETS YOULL NEVER HAVE VIDEO** How Marriage impacts our kids view of God. Whether you’re married or not it would be good to know God’s plan for marriage. Why do we have kids?Why do we get married?Your answer to these questions with change your outcome in these situations. Is it for selfish reasons?Have kids to continue the family name. (they have to perform)Then if they don’t perform we will just give up. If the ROI isn’t high enough we abandon. Discipline becomes difficult because we to want to pay the cost. Telling your daughter her dress is too short. Telling your son that he cannot speak to others that way. It becomes not worth the aggravation. We won’t work hard at marriage if it’s only about our happiness. Bridging the gap isn’t worth the effort. So why do we marry?Why do we Parent?In Gen. 1:2 God tells Adam and eve to multiplyJesus in Mark 10:6 reminds us of Genesis 5:2 He created them male and female. (God has a design for marriage but… Every Family is broken. (Religion can’t keep families together)Duet. 6 Teach God’s CommandsAdam & Eve -> Homicide in their family.Noah- Curses his son; David’s Son raises an army to kill his dad, Law & Religion & Fear were not enough to Keep families together. Malachi 4:6 points to Jesus. It says GRACE and Love are needed. It can’t just be fear. Marriage isn’t just about us. It’s a mirror of the Gospel for the world to see. Marriage is Worship to God!Parenting is Worship & Witness of GodBeing faithful husbands, wives, sons, and daughters points to Jesus and his sacrifice.But it isn’t easy. It’s not always fun. We need to have the Longview. ILLUSTRATION: My failure. didn’t do this well yesterday. Finalizing this message. Kids louder when you need something done. We don’t have to live in bitterness and anger of a family feud. You should view your family as a treasure that he’s asked you to steward and not a possession to be owned and controlled or manipulated. If we truly have become like bacon and put selfishness to death then… We have kids because God has given them to us. Be fruitful and multiply is not only fun in the creation of life but with the development. Psalm 127:3 Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. We Marry because we glorify God through it. It’s more than just happiness. It’s God’s plan for family. It’s a witness to the world that God knows what he’s doing. Kids need security and the foundation of family. Marriage isn’t perfect but it’s worth fighting for. God wants our marriages to share the Good news! That God is in the family healing business. We always need the grace of God to continue in LOVE. If you’re a single parent build relationships with Godly married couples that your kids will see. And teach your kids to honor marriage. Marriage & Parenting is Hard Work! Prophecy about John the Baptizer and the work of Jesus. Malachi 4:6 Hearts will be Re-Engaged & HealedGod’s word tells us in Ephesians 5:31- Our perfect illustration for marriage is the church. And the Christian marriage is to be an illustration of God’s relationship w/ the church. What gets seen gets repeated. The greatest inheritance you can leave is a legacy of faith. Faith doesn’t mean an absence of fear. It means we have a trust in God that no matter what we are going to follow Jesus. (JESUS IS ENOUGH) Our belief in Jesus needs to determine how we work; love; have fun; relax; raise our family; get married; chose a career…..You’re not going to be here forever. (the begot verses) so and so and so… begin thinking beyond you. Kid’s want you not things, money or your success. Kid’s want their parents. The days are long and the years are short. From birth to 18 you have 940 Saturdays. 260 are already gone by 5th grade. You’re not going to be able to pick up and carry your kids when their legs are too tired. Kids & Parents. Ipad, Phone, at the restaurant or dinner table trains them that dinner is time for connecting with humans that are in front of you. Enjoy the seasons. Church sign. Capture memories not things. Don’t let your kids be projects to be perfected. Realize that your kids and grandkids are created in the image of God. Relationship must be the focus of discipline, training, and growing. Play together when the kids are young. They need to have fun together not just at sports or clubs. You want your kids to want to come home for time together and fun. ENJOY YOUR KIDS even when…. If fun only happens at soccer, boyscouts, or when you leave the house then they will not want to come back when they are older. Don’t give your life to a company that will move on the moment you die. Don’t let success get in the way of the legacy of success. You will be replaced at work. You can’t be replaced at home. You’re going to choose who to disappoint at times. Is the deadline more important or your family. Who do you matter to the most? Your kids will figure it out. Be fully present. Single moms and dads this is tough. Your energy is going to be run down. Don’t allow battles that didn’t go well determine the war. It’s not going to go perfectly but realize you are the very best parent they could have. Because you care and God has entrusted you with his child. Create a plan. (1x per week scheduled faith family night)Deuteronomy 6:4-9Impress them; talk while sitting, walking, lie down; get up; write them on your hands; foreheads; write them on your walls & gates. Everywhere you go teachable moments. Application: I had a professor who told me it was a sin to bore people with the bible. Family Time (Itstartsathome.org) Make it Fun and schedule it (1x) a weekUse Sundays Sermon Text as a launching point. -What does this say?-Why do we need to know this?-Here is what you need to rememberYou cannot outsource training in the faith. Frozen Arms* Main Point: Help your children learn about what it means to be a servant (Mark 10:43–45) Preparation: You’ll need some of your kid’s favorite candy or cookies and a Bible. Tell your children that you have frozen their arms so they are not allowed to bend elbows or wrists. Place candy or cookies in the middle of the table and tell them they can each eat one. Without bending their arms, however, it will be impossible to serve themselves— so they must figure out how to serve one another to get the good stuff! When done, read Mark 10:43–45 and James 1:27 and explain that we are called to serve those unable to serve themselves—but the real blessing comes back to us.

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