“Is ‘Trying’ Disrespectful?” – When A Spouse Wants Out


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By Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Lee H. Baucom. Discovered by Player FM and our community — copyright is owned by the publisher, not Player FM, and audio is streamed directly from their servers. Hit the Subscribe button to track updates in Player FM, or paste the feed URL into other podcast apps.
"Gem" wrote me after a recent episode of my podcast. In that episode, a therapist said, after one single session (where divorce had not been mentioned) that the client needed to prepare for divorce. In Gem's case, her husband used therapy as the excuse that they "had tried therapy but it didn't work." But he went further, saying that if Gem did not go along with his desire to divorce, it amounted to her disregarding (and disrespecting) his emotions. I would have said, "WHAT??", except I have heard the same thing over and over. Often enough that I have even wondered if some Pro-Divorce "expert" had given that as the secret recipe to shift a spouse out of "save the marriage mode." (Yes, those folks do exist... and yes, spouses do find them... and use them to arm against staying married -- as if you need to arm against that!!) What does it mean when a spouse says, "You are disrespecting my feelings by trying to save our marriage"? And what do you do? IS it disrespectful? SHOULD you just go along and give up? I cover it in this week's Save The Marriage Podcast. Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES Can Your Marriage Be Saved? Why Isn't Your Marriage Turning Around? Am I Against Therapy? Can You Convince A Spouse? Here's How To Save Your Marriage... Even Working Alone

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