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There is hope! Are you ready for time managment that will help you to reclaim your day and feel good at the end? Is this too good to be true? No, it is a reality and if I can do it, you can as well. How does it happen? Well, very easily with one sheet of paper and four squares. Today I will help you figure out the main issues that steal your time and the hope on how to reclaim it.
Let’s get our time management back!
Does your day lack focus? Are you overwhelmed with the shuffling of papers, trying to get school “done” and keep up with the household chores? You can see why there is such burn out among moms, and especially moms who homeschool. Even at the beginning of the year! I have to say I struggled with this for many years and it left me feeling tired, defeated, and like I wasn’t getting anything accomplished each day. I felt like a young mom with little children, if I kept everyone safe by the end of the day it was a win!
However, I wanted so much more. Especially for those who are new to homeschooling or even if you are a pro, you need the help that comes from getting all of your ducks in a row. Let me cut to the chase here. I was out of time because my time was managing me instead of the other way around. What was interrupting my day? Easy, three things:
- Talking on the phone (substitute social media here and texting).
- No set schedule with household chores.
- Disobedient kids
I had a defeatist attitude and could not wait until my husband came home so I could dump all of my daily woes on him, and guess what? That didn’t work out too well. My husband ran his own business and often needed my help to do the payroll, or help with management and the details of filing payroll taxes, filling out forms and so much more.
Fast forward, and we raised five kids and have not one but three businesses that we run out of our homes, successfully. How did this happen? Believe me, it was not overnight but now I can share those tips and techniques with you, and these are even better than what I had in my toolbox at the time.
Rules are made to be broken, but sometimes you can look at them as good suggestions, so take heart as I share some quick ones with you.
- Just because you get an idea it does not mean you have to act on it right now. Write it down and look at it at lunchtime, or after dinner, and plan for it. Quickly one thing I do not do even with a business is looking at emails in the morning – emails such the life and my day away from me. Unless I have planned for this, I don’t do it until after lunch. People who really need to get hold of me quickly know how to do this. Everything else can wait.
- I learned my time wasters. See number one – but there were others. I let myself get sidetracked and once I learned the keys to keeping myself on track it worked.
- Make a plan and stick to it – I know, for those of you kindred spirits that are spontaneous. But believe me, it works.
- Every self-help book or how to get organized is not going to help you get organized if you refuse to do what it suggests (same with this broadcast)
- Seek help when needed.
I think that is important to note that many times we think an issue is one problem when it is really something else. Another issue with time management is that we have false expectations or perhaps, no expectations at all! So first it is homework time. I am going to encourage you to stop this recording and write out your most pressing need and what you hope to accomplish. What is your main expectation? Is it a peaceful home, is it happiness that surpasses all understanding, is it kids that get along, laundry washed, dried and folded and put away in one day, is it meals planned? What is that? What is important to you?
So the first thing to do is look at your expectations, hopes dreams, and break them down into a day, week, month or even a year. Remember the old saying, “Rome wasn’t built in one day.” But I am going to add my Felice twist here – “But the fires that destroyed Rome were set on purpose.”
What fires are you setting for yourself? I’ve looked at my expectations and goals and realized that they were so grandiose, and my expectation so unattainable that I was setting myself up for failure and it wasn’t going to happen even with a household of full-time employees! SO, let’s get realistic. I’m not going to tell you the platitudes I’ve read like, “make every minute count” or “delegate” or “make easy to serve meals.” This is a duh, duh, and double duh. We are talking about surviving the day here. But what I will tell you is that you need to use what you have on hand.
I’m an author, which I do believe most of you know and years ago my daughter wanted to write a novel. I told her, “Christina, I don’t know how to write a novel,” and she said, “Mom, we are homeschoolers, we will figure it out.”
Moms and Dads if you are listening. You may or may not be homeschoolers – but if there is something you want to do, you can figure it out. The one novel turned out to be three and sold in catalogs such as Christian Book Distributors, currently on Amazon and my website, MediaAngels.com and have been around the world. We figured it out.
What is important to you. The list usually looks like this:
- Need to manage the kids.
- Need to manage the home.
- Need to teach school (for those who are homeschooling.)
- Need time with my spouse.
- Need to keep my sanity.
Kids always seem to be number one when they should not hold that revered position. As a Christian, the first thing that should be on the list is a time of prayer. I’ve talked about this before, but the days I did not wake up, grab a cup of coffee, my Bible and have a short prayer session with the Lord was the day that all heck broke loose.
So, we need to rearrange the list and have it look something like this.
- Keep my sanity. Begin the day with God.
- Time with my spouse – figure out when to have a meaningful conversation, spend time and date night even if it means to put the kids to bed and grab some popcorn and watch a movie at home.
- Manage my home. What is pressing? Laundry? Food? Use your weekends, bulk cook, and freeze. Just like a copy machine is a blessing to every homeschool family, so is an upright or chest freeze.
- Manage my kids. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Follow through. Practice good behavior, if this means having your kids repeat after you, do it. I have several audios on this topic and I also have audios I have created for the kids, see links below. Have your kids listen to them. Side note here – Tell your kids you are on the same side. Sometimes I think we are in a battle and the kids need to know there is one leader, it is you as a parent and the troops need to file in… if you do not have a set of consequences this is important to think about. Ahead of time.
- School! Yes, this is last. My kids learned despite my beautifully created curriculum or lessons. Read, read, and read. If you want your kids to learn life lessons do it in books, if you want your kids to learn math get a curriculum. I have a series of character quality free downloads I give away every month on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network, you can sign up to get them and past sets are for sale on my website at MediaAngels.com. why is this? Because prior to the 1960s character was infused and morality in schools, families, and churches. Now, it is all revisionist and secular. Interestingly I read a quote recently from a past president that shocked me. In the words of John Adams: “Our Constitution is designed only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate for any others.”Friends this is the key, we must bring morality and all that is good and holy into our homes. If that means restricting screen time, do it – if it means only watching good movies, get Pureflix. I realize this is a challenge for some of you but I have faith in you, you can do it!
Lastly the key here – how to do it how to get organized. Fast Track.
- One week at a glance. Take a sheet of paper and draw a horizontal line and a vertical line. So, it has 4 squares. Faith, Kids, School Household. You can use different headings on each of these squares for whatever you want. This is an overall sketch of what you are going to do and accomplish. The weekly goals if you will. You will not get detailed with the kid’s schooling, other than maybe to put a time frame, or perhaps books you are going to read as a family, etc.
- Square one: Faith you can add spouse there as well. But first, you need to get right with God. You need to be filled up before you can pour into others. My show – AFewMinutesWithGodPodcast.com
- Square two: Kids – what are your overall goals – is there something in particular or one kid, in particular, that is the squeaky wheel that needs help. Whether it is academic or discipline. At a time of war they always went after the leader, so if there is one child that is leading the others astray begin there.
- School. Once again the overarching here – do you have a field trip, are you going to do a science experiment, watch a specific video -put this on your list.
- Household. When are you doing the laundry, prepare meals – you can have a start time, etc … list it here:
Whatever you use make it work for you! Make it your own. I really do believe you can figure this out and reclaim your time. Time management is you managing time and making an effort to not allow it to manage you!
Resources: Past Vintage Homeschool Moms Podcasts and Show notes to help you!
- I have several past podcasts and if you look at the show notes page, you will see links to download a bunch of forms!
1. Here is one on Homeschool Forms another on
- Last-minute Christmas prep – contains 4-square planner
- Running Your Home Like a CEO
- Easy Way Planning link here