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A Date With Darkness podcast discusses the impact of narcissistic abuse and other relationship wounds on your well-being. This podcast provides tips for breaking free from relationships with narcissists and other unhealthy relationship patterns so that you can begin your healing journey, reclaim your independence and sanity, feel confident and know your worth, break toxic cycles, and create the healthy loving relationships that you deserve.
 
Are you ready to take the mystery out of having great relationships and to gain the knowledge you need to step confidently into the next level of your life? Welcome to the Let’s Get Vulnerable podcast where your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, gives you real talk on all things dating, relationships, and sex. Dr. Morgan is a relationship coach, psychologist and creator of the E.S.L relationship method. She brings humor, truth and knowledge to the complex world of dating and relationships. Podcast ...
 
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Conflict is part of every single healthy relationship In fact, if you are not experiencing conflict; something is likely wrong with your relationship! Crazy right? Inside of this episode: -You will learn where the desire to control your partner comes from and how to stop trying to control every little thing -You will learn strategies for approachin…
 
On this solocast, I discuss the signs of narcissist discard. When a narcissist is done with the relationship and is on their way out the door, the signs are there. I discuss why it's important to see these signs for what they are and how you can take the steps to put yourself first and resist the urge to stay connected to an abusive person. *Please…
 
You’ve heard of Shiny Object Syndrome right?? Today we will talk about Shiny Relationship Syndrome! This is when you think that all of your relationship problems will be fixed simply by going to a different relationship…. Inside of this juicy episode I go into four unconscious factors that may be contributing to WHY you are going from relationship …
 
“Dating sucks” “I hate dating apps” “Do you have any idea how terrible the options are these days? I’d rather stay single” The above are all things I’ve heard as a relationship coach. And I get it; you CAN get burnt out on dating. This episode is meant to help you: Get back on track when the dating game just feels like way too much stress Learn how…
 
It's not uncommon for people to have more than one narcissistic or toxic relationship in their life. If you have evaluated the relationships in your life and have come to the conclusion that most of them are toxic, here are some reasons why as well as general tips on what to do about it. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are genera…
 
In today’s episode I do a deep dive into: PROTEST BEHAVIOR In order to build secure attachment we need to learn what we do INSTEAD of protest behavior Inside of todays Episode: I help you identity what protest behavior looks like Teach you WHY protest behavior occurs Give you the formula for what you should be doing instead of protest behavior if y…
 
This episode explores what two things we really crave in relationships: Intimacy ! To be fully and deeply understood by your partners The two go hand in hand, and are very important! Inside of this episode I discuss: Dating a securely attached person who may not understand your experience in relationships How to create intimacy in healthy ways The …
 
Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. owner of Annod Right and 3rd time guest on the podcast joins the show today. Dr. Donna and I have a candid conversation about misogynoir and how it is showing up in dating. Dr. Donna and I also discuss the common question, "what do you bring to the table?" We discuss why misogynoir behavior is abusive and why you should avoid…
 
Moving on can be SO HARD And sometimes we get down on ourselves about how long it’s taking us to get over someone I want you to know that what you’re feeling about your ex, may not even be about them or the relationship Inside of this episode I discuss: Grieving a break-up and some of my best tips for doing it in as healthy way as possible How Scar…
 
What is my top relationship value?! Freedom. After losing myself in countless relationships, I decided: never again. Inside of this episode I talk about how you know you’re in a securely attached relationship. And guess what?! Experiencing freedom is at the top of the list! I discuss: What relationship freedom looks and feels like How securely atta…
 
Unpopular Opinion: New Year’s resolutions are THE WORST Inside of this episode I teach you: Why Resolutions set you up for failure What to do instead of New Year's Resolutions How to actually get what you want This is a value packed episode that will help you go into 2022 with a clear mind on how to effectively create change in your life Do not spi…
 
Don’t make this mistake… I don’t want you to carry around false beliefs about what a relationship should be Sometimes our beliefs about relationships are NOT HEALTHY Many of us can fall prey to “fantasy beliefs” that are actually not healthy at all, and sabotage us Here is what I breakdown inside of the episode: How you developed fairy tale beliefs…
 
You need this episode in your life! If we can’t ask for support; we will never receive it. Most of us NEVER learned how to ask for support and be heard. I want to give you everything you need to learn how to ask for support in a securely attached way! Inside of this episode: - I explain why we never learned to ask for support - I provide my exact f…
 
Holiday Stress is NO JOKE! In this episode, I get vulnerable about my own holiday stress and I share what has worked for me. You will learn: -Why letting go of expectations is crucial for joy -The Key to Feeling Present -The best way to set boundaries (so that you are actually heard) You don’t want to miss this episode! If you’re ready to give your…
 
Your dating questions answered Inside of this episode I talk about: Dating App strategies that work Emotional Investment Pacing How to see if someone is emotionally available Relationship Red and Green Flags This is such a great episode Do not miss this one! It will set you up for dating success in 2022! Also it is not too late to join the 5 Day Mo…
 
In today’s episode I talk about dating emotionally unavailable partners… I even go off on a rant about a recent break-up in bachelor nation that screamed avoidant / anxious attachment dynamic Inside of today’s episode: -I discuss some ways you can pick up on someone who is emotionally unavailable -I share the importance of practicing aligned self-c…
 
Last week, I discussed how narcissists can draw negative attention to themselves by acting out in a variety of ways during the holidays. This week, I provide simple tips and coping strategies that can help manage the holiday stress caused by a narcissist. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicab…
 
You NEED self-compassion Yet so many of us are programmed to be critical, and mean to ourselves One of the most important things you can do for your mental health and relationships is to change how you talk to yourself Inside of today’s episode: -I talk about the importance of self-compassion -I walk you through an easy guided meditation sequence -…
 
Ghosting can be so painful… I want to make sure you have all of the tools to navigate it like a confident, emotionally intelligent, boss babe! Inside of this episode, I answer all of your juicy questions! These were questions submitted from the audience Specifically I explore: -What to do when you’ve been ghosted -How to have abundance mindset when…
 
During the holidays, it's not uncommon for the narcissist in your life to draw attention to themselves by creating havoc and animosity in the home. Anything from creating a scene to giving you a demeaning gift to demonstrate your worth to them is fair game. In this podcast, I review ways that the narcissist attempts to create unnecessary drama by a…
 
Vulnerability is a relationship superpower! Without it: -we struggle to form deep connections -we cut ourselves off from our emotions -we lose self-trust So HOW do we learn to be vulnerable?! Not through self-criticalness. Not through beating yourself up. Inside of this episode I talk about: -WHY it might be hard for you to be vulnerable -How to be…
 
BREAK-UPS, FORGIVENESS, oh my! Drumroll please… In today’s extra special episode, I give you a sneak peek into my upcoming book! Today’s episode I read you an excerpt that is all about break-ups and how to handle them in a loving and healthy way. You don’t want to miss this episode! If you are healing from a break-up and you know you’d like to “do …
 
In the 100th episode, I discuss how to protect your energy and avoid holiday burnout by protecting and implementing boundaries, honoring your emotions and mental health, being mindful of spending and gift giving, protecting your time, refusing to engage in toxic behaviors, and getting plenty of rest. The purpose of the holidays is to maximize enjoy…
 
“Corrective Emotional Experience” Have you ever heard of this term? These experiences facilitate our healing in ways that “doing the work” and journaling can’t quite reach. Inside of today’s episode we do a deep dive on: Understanding the importance of internalized attachment figures. Exploring retraumatization, and the defense of dissociating from…
 
Special Guest Alert! WOW! This is an EXTRA special episode where I talk with E.S.L. Program graduate, Dalma Avalos! Dalma was one of the very first women to complete the E.S.L. Relationship Program (almost three years ago at this point!). She openly shares about her journey from experiencing the pain of anxious attachment and low self-worth to comp…
 
Dear Santa, bring me a securely attached partner, please! The truth is we all desire a partner who is securely attached (and to show up as a securely attached partner). Secure attachment requires self-awareness, healing, and rewiring your brain. In today’s episode I talk about the relational tool: “Attunement”. Inside of this episode: I provide you…
 
Have you ever heard of “Sunk Cost Bias”? This unhelpful psychological bias is when past investment sabotages your ability to make good decisions about your future. We’ve all been there… You’re 6 months into a relationship and you start to realize it is going nowhere fast BUT instead of leaving you “keep trying harder to make it work”... Next thing …
 
Avoidance is pain. This simple sentence has a huge impact in your dating life. When we “let things slide” resentment builds, and with resentment relationships suffer… Resentment can completely destroy connection. Inside of this episode you will learn: The dangers of avoidance (how it impacts your self-worth and your relationships. Ways to ensure yo…
 
Struggling to define whether you’re “exclusive”, casually dating, just having fun or fully committed?! Defining the relationship can make anyone nervous and tongue tied. You might think: “I don’t want to be too much but, I also don’t want him to think I just want to hook up... ugggh!”. If you’ve ever struggled with this conversation you’re not alon…
 
Masculine Vs. Feminine Energy I want to be honest with you: YOU NEED BOTH in healthy relationships. Inside of this episode I discuss: The art of fulfillment. Why you might be sabotaging your dating life with masculine energy. The conscious relationship as a rebellion (a.k.a. you can build a new relationship paradigm). Honestly you don’t want to mis…
 
Today’s episode will help you be brutally honest with yourself! Inside of this episode I talk about: Why some people change and others stay stuck. The key to creating real and lasting change in your life. How to engineer success in your life (so that you are forced to show up and do the work). I hesitated to air this episode because it is the most …
 
Eliza Boquin, LMFT and sex therapist; owner of Flow and Ease Counseling, and Co-Founder of Melanin and Mental Health joins the show today. She and I had a candid conversation about sex, shame, and how that shows up in our intimate relationships. Unresolved sexual shame prevents us from being emotionally close to our partners, unable to enjoy pleasu…
 
This episode got super vulnerable (and it is PACKED with value!). I was so honored to have Dr. Z with me on the podcast as I discussed my own experience leaving an abusive relationship (and so much more!). We discussed how to cope with feelings that surfaced in response to the death of Gaby Petito. We shared the abusive relationship signs to look f…
 
Want to know the TRUTH about morning/night routines?! The TRUTH IS: the best routine is the one that you stick to! Inside of this episode: I share my own personal morning and night time routines. I give you a framework for creating your own routines. I give you real advice on how to make yourself consistent. Routines matter! As humans we love struc…
 
In this solocast, I give you my thoughts on the commonly asked question "my abuser came back into my life and wants a relationship, what should I do?" While I don't recommend going back into a relationship with an abusive person, I recognize that it may take multiple attempts to leave an abusive relationship for good. Here are some things to consid…
 
For anyone who has struggled to love their body: this episode is for you! We have a special guest for this episode! My dear friend, Dr. Aileen Alexander Dr. Aileen helps busy professional women take control of their health so they can lose weight, increase their energy and reclaim their self confidence while still enjoying chocolate, carbs and meal…
 
The death of Gabby Petito has brought up a lot of my own feelings around surviving an abusive relationship. Even though this is a challenging and painful topic; I believe it is worth exploring. Inside of this short but powerful episode I talk about: The reality of leaving an abusive relationship. The reality of healing once you have left. What ever…
 
In this solocast, I discuss some of the reasons why we may gravitate towards abusive partners if we have a history of being in abusive relationships. Basic interventions are provided to help you avoid falling into a cycle of continuously connecting with abusive personalities. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestion…
 
Let’s get REAL vulnerable shall we?! In today’s episode, I talk about a past situationship and give you all of my JUICY takeaways. Inside of this episode, I share: How to know if you are in a situationship. The importance of dropping expectations while being crystal clear on standards. The impact of scarcity mindset/ timeline thinking on your datin…
 
Avoidant attachment gets a bad reputation. There is a lot going on under the surface of the avoidantly attached person’s heart and mind. Inside of this special episode: I help you understand avoidant attachment on a deep level/ I explain “devaluing” and other avoidant attachment strategies. I provide steps for the avoidantly attached person to lear…
 
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