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What happens when you mix Carrie Bradshaw with Dr. Phil? You get me, Shallon Lester, an author, editor, NYC It Girl and YouTube dating coach with almost 1 billion views! On this podcast, I’ll answer YOUR burning questions about love, lust, life and lip gloss—and everything between. Are you ready to join the #Shallontourage and take over the world? Time to get on top, ladies... ♥️Got a love quandary? Submit a question at www.shallonlester.com ♥️Instagram & Twitter @ShallonXO ♥️YouTube https:/ ...
 
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Summer is in full swing… and burnout might be too. I’ll tell you how burnout can trick you into thinking you’re falling for someone, and help set boundaries not only to keep burnout at bay, but why they’re crucial to keeping a guy interested! 💜JOIN ME IN THE DOMINICAN💜 https://bit.ly/DRwithShallonxo 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜F…
 
Who doesn’t want to have a hot girl summer? But there’s a right way and a wrong way to have a summer fling. I’ll break down the definition of a successful summer romance, and exactly the kind of guys to avoid if you’re not looking to get your heart broken! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonle…
 
Tired of talking yourself to death about your feelings and boundaries when a guy is disrespectful? I will give you four (science backed!) magic words to communicate your point without sounding desperate, naggy or needy—and put the ball back in his court! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlest…
 
Last week we talked about when to stop leaning in and take a pause to lean back, and this week we’ll outline 4 steps to cope with burnout and use it as a set up to being your most authentic self! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING …
 
There’s a time to lean in…but there’s a time to step away. If you’re feeling anxious about reentering society, burnt out on socialization, exhausted by relationship, or just need a little bit of a pause for yourself, I will tell you how to disengage and embrace a self-serving season! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A …
 
We all want to have a hot girl summer but…what exactly does that mean? For me, it means not needing approval or rescuing from any guy or even society. I’ll break down how to deal with body shamers and why gettin’ yo bag is the key to happiness! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FO…
 
Putting yourself out there is crucial to making friends…but what do you do when your coupled up galpals aren’t reciprocating the effort? This week we’ll help a Shalligator who is the odd (single!) girl out in a sea of loved up ladies. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE …
 
This week on YouTube I explained why silence is your main weapon if you want an ex back, but here we’ll delve a little deeper into the strategy behind it. Plus, we’ll follow up to my tale about a booty call that became a wife, and what precisely she said to him to get out of the sex zone and into an engagement ring! Take the MedCerts quiz to see if…
 
#1 YouTuber in the Middle East, incredible businesswoman, inspiration, singer, fellow Iraqi and one of my dearest friends, @Noorstars sat down with me for an episode of my podcast show with Love, Mona. ❤️ We talked about her incredible life journey from being a refugee to the biggest YouTuber in the Middle East, the power of having a strong faith, …
 
This week we talk to a Shalligator who wants to rekindle things with a guy she rejected (twice!) and another who wants her husband to morph back into the man she married, and not the mega douche he's become. I'll help you let go of regret and knock some sense into guys who are letting you slip away! 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜SHO…
 
With summer around the corner, it’s easy to have spring fever about boys and dating. But before you start swiping, texting or hooking up, I’ll give you a pep talk on why we NEVER CHASE. Plus, I’ll help a Shalligator who isn’t sure if she’s worked through her issues enough to get out in the dating game. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜…
 
Dating apps are a great way to meet guys…and an excellent way to completely waste your time with f*ckboys! I’ll tell you red flags to look for in a boy’s profile, plus help one Shalligator who isn’t sure if her new Bumble boy is all in or all trouble! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! Go check o…
 
Change sucks. Change is the worst when it’s change you didn’t particularly ask for...but isn’t MOST change out of your control? I’ll give you five tips on becoming more resilient instead of bitter and erotic, and talk to one shower gator whose ex just dropped a bomb about the change in his own life! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shall…
 
Do you find yourself attracting guys who don’t really have a social life of their own? Or are your “friends” flaky, frazzled and forgettable? I’ll give you tips on getting a life for him AND yourself! Head on over to www.formulate.co/podcast complete the brief hair questionnaire and use my code “SHALLON” at checkout. Order today and you will get a …
 
We should all be visualizing what we want out of our future but what do you do when imagination goes bad? If you struggle with romanticizing things at the expense of reality, I’ll give you the two keys to happiness and help you pump the breaks on a runaway emotional train! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping an…
 
This week, we’ll break down the psychology of beta males who neg amazing women, plus share some lessons from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Essentialism,” and help you walk away from “perfect” opportunities that don’t feel so perfect after all. 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallo…
 
As we emerge out of the pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to remake things into a new normal, from our job situation to our friendship. I’ll tell you how to rejigger dynamics that are/aren’t working, plus talk to a Shalligator who worries that she may have followed “Why Men Love Bitches” a little TOO closely! 💜GET “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES” 💜 ht…
 
We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and…
 
This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight …
 
Who is ready for Episode 5, of my new podcast show: With Love, Mona?! 🥰With our favorite radio host and superhuman, super dad, super friend @krisfade!! 👏🏼 We talked about how a radio ad in Australia changed his whole life and career path, how he overcame anxiety, his health journey both physically and mentally, his new business venture with the yum…
 
As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shal…
 
Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you! Go to FlexFits.com/…
 
This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct o…
 
Tonight’s guest is the amazing Danielle Canty, Co-Founder and President of @BossBabe.INC We had such an inspiring conversation about the importance of living a life aligned with your core values and purpose, working on yourself and being unapologetically ambitious, helping break down barriers for women entrepreneurs and so much more!! I hope you en…
 
This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness. Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sash…
 
This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it! Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop fo…
 
This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! 💜READ “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn mo…
 
If a friend vanishes out of your life, do they deserve to get let back in? I’ll help a Shalligator who is wondering if a long lost pal wants another chance or if it’s time to let things go. ALSO! Listen to XO Radio every Wednesday on the Stationhead app (free!) where I play my fave tunes and break down their lessons. AND! Subscribe to my intimate n…
 
This week, a Shalligator is at her wits end with guys who seem to break up with her because they “can’t give you what you need.” But the gag is, she doesn’t really need that much! Is this just a line guys are handing her, or is she portraying herself has way more high maintenance than she is? I’ll decode it all! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://sh…
 
When you are a bad ass chick, as we are here in the Shallontourage, it can be hard to focus on just one career or even just a manageable handful of hobbies. I’ll help one Shalligator sort through her maze of interests and explain why recklessly spending energy will leave you bankrupt! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 In…
 
To kick of 2021, I'll help you embrace the past (yes, even 2020) and tackle a question by a Shalligator who thinks she's starting absolutely from scratch after a tough and trying year. I'll give her some tough love but also 3 actionable, science-backed steps to improving her self-esteem, getting back to her authentic self, and leaving the misery be…
 
Hi my Loves! 🤎 I'm super excited about my newest episode of my podcast @With.Love.Mona with the world's most influential hairstylist and my beautiful, talented, down to earth friend & Super Woman, Jen Atkin!! We discussed everything from Jen's childhood and how it shaped her, her journey to success, to the key behind her long-lasting relationship a…
 
It’s our last podcast of 2020 and it’s time to set intentions for the new year. I’ll tell you my easy, 3-tiered approach to goal setting and manifestation. Plus, we’ll tackle the topic of guys who slide into your DMs, and how to craft the perfect Instagram! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GIVE BACK 💜 gf.me/u/za8h5d 💜ENJOYING IT…
 
Whether you're in a small town, small college or small office, getting over someone you have to see all the time is an exercise in agony. I'll give you some practical tips on moving forward, and we'll talk to a Shalligator who's in a quandary about how to find a good therapist! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GIVE BACK 💜 gf.me/…
 
I’m beyond excited to introduce you to the second episode of my new podcast show With Love, Mona. I have a very special guest, Michele Morrone from the hit movie 365 days! It was such a pleasure to get to know Michele better, learn about his rise to fame, his passion for music, art, and fragrances! We also touched on deeper subjects, like mental he…
 
‘Tis the season to…go into debt making buying presents, right? NOPE. Not this year. We’re going to look at the silver linings of 2020, reset our attitude toward money, dial down expectations, and come out of the holidays feeling rich in every possible way! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review th…
 
Is cheating actually cheating if it’s with a sex worker? And can sending a guy nudes prevent him from straying? I’ll explore this sexually tense situation, plus help another Shalligator sort out who exactly should pay for the date, and when to start pitching in! 💜 BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜 ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate an…
 
Hi my loves!!!! I am beyond excited to introduce to you all my first podcast episode of "With Love, Mona" and I couldn't think of anybody more special to start off my show than one of my closest friends @Sara_Almadani_! Sara was actually my very first friend I met when I first moved to Dubai and we have known each other for 18 years! She is an incr…
 
This week we’re focusing on just one topic: turning yourself into an alpha female. Specifically, I’m breaking down the three major shifts I made in my life to go from cold blooded to independent, bulletproof, and ultimately, very happy and satisfied no matter what my circumstances. This weeks motto: “No thank you.” 💜BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstr…
 
Halloween may be over, but we're keeping the sinful fun going with an Evil Week bonus, where I break down easy tricks to gather information on your enemies and haters so you can craft the most effective strategy against them. Plus, I'll tell you some sanity-saving tips on surviving election season with this week's motto: Do Not Disturb. 💜JOIN EVIL …
 
EVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness Evil Week is in full swing but it can be hard to fully step into the shoes of sin, right? I'll give you a perditious little pep talk on how evil and intuition walk hand in hand. Plus: we'll sorting out what exactly makes for great sex (and how to get it!) and ranting about...Emily Ratajkowski? 💜J…
 
Evil Week begins on October 25 on YouTube and Infstream, and the Shallontourage deserves a little...appetizer, don’t you think? This week I’m talking all about revenge — how to get it, who to tell, what it looks like, and the two different strategies for annihilating your enemies. 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester 💜ENJO…
 
This week our mantra is: stay true to yourself. Sometimes it’s necessary to look at the reality of the situation, a person, or even a town and say… You know what? This just isn’t good enough for me anymore. Plus, I’ll tell you how to cultivate what I call celebrity energy to insulate you from beta males who neg you on dating apps and IRL! 💜JOIN THE…
 
This week we’re talking to a Shalligator who feel stuck in her current college circumstance, plus another trapped by a friend who just won’t listen to her advice, and another who ponders the age old question: if we sleep with a guy in the first date, is it the kiss of death? I’ll break it all down! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜https://www.amazon.com/shop/s…
 
This week, we’re learning how to see the reality of the situation — not what we hope it is, or what fear tells us it is. One Shalligator is getting ghosted by a guy with unclear intentions, while another is debating whether or not to cut off a toxic friend. I’ll sort it all out and give you a soothing new mantra! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜https://www.am…
 
We’ve all been there with the guy who felt like drugs—every text and every hook up gave us that dopamine insanity. One Shalligator offers her tip on how to clip the cravings, then another ask a crucial question: when we are finally finished with fuck boys, where can you find a hot quality nerd? I’ll tell you a fun and easy way to magnetize quality …
 
This week we’re talking to a Shalligator dealing with a perfect-on-paper-life… But a whole bunch of moody malaise. And another chickadee is trying to turn the tide and get out of the booty call category. Is it possible? We’ll break it all down! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester 💜GOT A QUESTION ? 💜 Head to shallonlester.…
 
Is there magic in moderation? Is the middle path the key to happiness? This week I’ll help identify the warning signs that a guy is using you as his own emotional getaway car, and how to get things back on track. Plus, will break down what it really means when a guy is sarcastic – is it a sign of gaslighting, or are you just being too sensitive? 💜J…
 
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