57. Why We Make It So Much Harder To Get What We Want


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Do you think it’s possible to get what you want? Well, it absolutely is. But when you tell yourself that getting what you want is so far down the road or only possible for others, you create distance between where you are now and what you desire. This self-sabotaging of your desires only serves to hold you back from receiving what you want and affirm the self-limiting beliefs you are telling yourself - whether you realize it or not.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the reasons why you’re terrified of getting what you want, why that fear often leads to self-sabotage, and how you can get out of your own way to reach your goals. I’m also walking you through a few of the internal thought processes that can go on behind the scenes, plus how you can claim what you desire when you a) get crystal clear on what you want and b) start understanding how you’re holding yourself back from your desires.

In this episode, we cover…

  • The five reasons we’re terrified of getting what we want
  • Why we deliberately keep ourselves confused and overwhelmed
  • How the fear of judgement can be rooted in your own core beliefs
  • Self-sabotage: what it means, why we do it, and how to avoid it
  • How you’re holding yourself back from the next level version of you

“In defense of avoiding pain, we stay in limbo, or we stay status quo.” - Amanda Kolbye

”This fear of failure, this fear of claiming what we want and not getting it is a huge reason why we self-sabotage. And a huge reason why getting the thing or getting clear on the thing that you want can be terrifying.” - Amanda Kolbye

“The reality is that no matter what it is that you want or desire, you always have options. The question is, what are you doing with the options? Are you using them? Are you telling yourself the lie that you don't have any options in front of you?” - Amanda Kolbye

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