66 - How to accept a compliment


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This episode we’re excited to be responding to a highly relatable listener question.

Justin Hensley (@EBMgoneWILD) asked us: “How does one take a compliment? In COVID times we get a lot of “thank you for your service” but even regularly I suck at taking them. Is it an upbringing thing?”
So we’re pulling it apart in the two shrinks way with a chat about why it’s so hard, what issues can be underlying this & how on earth you’re supposed to accept a compliment graciously.

To wrap up, it’s things we came across focused on insults - hear which musician gets enough negative press to have a whole research paper written about him and try out some medieval insults.


Imposter syndrome: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5869760/

A conceptual model of compliments: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344508037_New_perspectives_on_the_praise_literature_towards_a_conceptual_model_of_compliment

Self-esteem: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103116302943

Backhanded compliments: https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Publication%20Files/18-082_f96a8202-ccfe-409b-a8ba-0f187bf678e4.pdf

Culture: https://benjamins.com/catalog/lic.17.1.06mir/fulltext/lic.17.1.06mir.pdf and


Insulting James Blunt: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0271530920300884

Medieval insult generator: https://fungenerators.com/random/insult/medieval-insult/

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